THE FAMILY AND PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT
The family that Vicky and Jason grow up in is probably the largest single influence on their development. Were their births planned and welcomed? How old were their parents? How well do the personalities of parents and child mesh? Are the parents healty? Are they whealthy or poor? How many people live at home? Influence travels in the other direction too. Children also effect their parents in untold ways,transforming parents dayto-day moods, priorities and plans for the future-even a marriage it self.
Family life for both Vicky and Jasonis quite different from what it would have been a century ago, and familylife is likely to change even more in the future. A child growing up today is likely to have only one sibling, a mother who works outside the home, and a father who is more involved in his children’s lives than his own father was; and to receive a considerable amount ofdaily care from non relatives, first in a caregiver’s home or day care center and than at a preschool. Today’s children have a 40 percent chance of spending part of their childhood with only one parent’s probably the mother and probably because of divorce.
These changes have revolutionized the study of socialization how children learn the behaviors their culture considers appropriate. In the past, most researches focused on mothers and their children, but now researches are studying bounds between children and their fathers, their brothers and sisters, their grandparents, and other caregivers.
Another fascinating trend in research is the focus on the entire famlily. How does Erlen and Charles,s marital realitionshipaffect the relationshipthat each spouse has with Vicky? Do Julia and Jess differently with Jason when either one is alone with him yielded provocative findings. For example, when both parents are parents and talking to each other, they pay less attention to their child. In some families, the spouses closeness to each other may detract their abilityto be close to their children; in other the parenting experience strengthens the marriage tie. By looking at the family as a unit, we get a fuller picture of the web of relationships among family members.
Glossary
Mesh : menghubungkan
Moods : suasana hati
Personalities : kepribadian
Considerable : banyak/ besar
Sibling : saudara
NonRelative : tidak ada hubungan kekerabatan
Caragiver : pengasuh anak
Preschool : masa sebelum sekolah
Childhood : masa nak- anak
Divorce : percaraian, bercerai
Attention : perhatian
Spouse : suami / istri
Detract : mengurangi
Socialization : permasyarakatan
Behaviour : Tingkah laku
Tie : Mengikat, ikatan
Exercise 1
Answer the following question
1. Is their any relationship between the family and personality development?
2. What factors influence their children development?
3. What are the roles of parents for their children?
4. What are the different between the ancient and the recent family life?
5. Why can the spouses closeness lessen their ability to be close to their children?
Exercise 2
Thing about how you could support the following statment. Tell several psibilities. Some example have been given for the first one.
1. My father is my mentor.
Examples of how he guide me.
- He taught me how to resolve problems with friends for example
- …………
- I worked for him during vacation and learned
2. My mother is my best friend
3. My grandmother / grandfather has been like a mother/ father to me.
Exercise 3
Fill the blank by using the words given
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Chilhood, behavior, divorce, caregiver, personality, sibling, attention, spouse, preschool |
1. Tata’s family say that she is an idealist. She must be able to get what she wants. It seems that she has a strong………
2. Tom falls in love with Alice. Tom’s parents are going to propose her but when they know Alice’s “parent” they abrogate their plan because Tom and Alice ae one …….. Tom and Alice were seperated when the ywere still a baby.
3. Jenny’s father is an engineer and Jenny’s mother is a career women. Thay are very busy, so they are not able to take care their only child. They should send her in ……… when they work.
4. ………. is very important for the children before they come to kindergarten. It can train the children’s imagination develop well.
5. Robin and Handrick’s parents are very rich.whatever they want their parents always give them. When they are child they had so many toys. Really they had a happy ……..
6. Mrs. Tuti hardly can show her sadness after her ……….. with her loved husband.
7. To be a good teacher, he must know how to secure the …….. of his pupils.
8. Mr. Johan has married amny for 25 years. People think that they are a very suitable ……
9. I feel that he always avoid me. I don’t know why, but i am sure that his ……… toward me shows that he doesn’t like me.
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