LONELINESS
Before reading the passage, answer these questions.
. Do you ever feel lonely?
. Why do we we fell lonely?
. What is your feeling when you’re lonely?
Although many people value relationship above all else, satisfying ties are hard to achiece and loneliness is a common dilemma for both children and adults (Rubbin,1982). The experience of loneliness, althought conceptualized in carious ways, has two defineng features. First, it is unpleasant. Second, the lonely person perceives deficiencies in social in relationship (de Jong – Giervield & Raadsschelders in 1982; D Russell,1984). One may be cut off from social ties without feeling lonely. Loneliness can occur in these overlapping situations (Peplau & Pearlman, 1982) Changes in social relations. Close relationship often end as one partner moves away psychologically or physically or dies. The equality of relationships sometimes deteriorates with time.
1 . Changes in social needs. Which very throughout the live span, people experience loneliness. Adolescents, for example, often long for intimacy before they find a companion ( Brennan, 1982). After devotion to work during early adulthood, many middle-aged adults turn again to social ties for live satisfaction and fine their lives empty.
2. Personal qualities. Lonely individuals appear more negative, rejecting, self-absorbed, self-critical, and less responsive than others (Brenna,1982;Jones,1982,Stokes,1985). Even if involved with a number of people negativity may incline the lonely to dwell in the deficiencies also show up in the psychology laboratory, where lonely people find it hard to think of ways to solve problems with others. (for example : You just moved into a new neighborhood. How would you go about finding some friends?). Limited socials skills reduce opportunuties for relationship building and keep people from taking advantage of opportunities that arise.
3. Cultural influence. Cultural emphases on competition and independence can interfere with interpersonal needs.
4. Situational influence. When the poeple live on work in isolation, loneliness is more troublesome. Life changes such as becoming housebond, losing transportation, moving or traveling may cut some individuals off from others. In one study, three out of every four college students living away from their families admitted experiencing loneliness during their first term ( Cutrona, 1982 )
Glossary
· Features : ciri-ciri
· Deficiencies : Kekurangan
· Deteriorates : memburuk
· Keep pace with : menyetarakan dengan
· Devotion : Kesetian
· Self-absorbed : Asyik dengan diri sendiri
· Incline : mencondongkan
· Interfere with : Mencampuri/mengganggu
·Housebond : terkurung dirumah, tidak bisa kemana-mana dikarenakan sakit.
Exercise 1
Answer these question below
1. What loneliness?
2. Why does loneliness happen to both childrend and adults?
3. What is effect of loneliness?
4. When does loneliness happen?
5 . In what situation does loneliness ussualy occur to children?
6. If you move to a new environmenr, sometimes you feel lonely. In which point (number) do you find?
7. Give the example(S) that lonelines appears more negatively
8. What is the relationship between cultural influence and loneliness?
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